Posted on October 7th, 2012, by Meggin McIntosh, Ph.D.
What Do You Need to Protect Yourself From?
I know this question is not the best syntax…but it sounds better than the more formal (and more correct) "From what do you need to protect yourself?" Either way, let's think about this question…and determining an answer.
If you feel comfortable doing so, jot down the names of a few folks or a few situations from whom you need to protect and distance yourself. If it is not comfortable for you to write down those people's names, then describe the mental image you have of being safe and protected in a special eggshell or bubble.
Now, ask the question, "What would get to happen for you if…"
- you protected yourself from angry co-workers?
- you protected yourself from a neighbor who brings all her problems to you (and has for years?!)
- you protected yourself from saying yes to every request that comes your way?
- you protected yourself from a relative's "guilt trips" and "pity parties"?
When you answer the question, it gives you focus and strength to create your protective eggshell.
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