Remember in the Brady Bunch shows (which I watched as a teenager – yes, I’m 53, almost 54 at this point), there was a split screen. Recently, I was talking with my coach, Dr. Joelle Jay, and she made reference to the split screen and so I’ve been thinking about it ever since. Get the picture in your mind of two people having a conversation about the same event, but from their different perspectives. Or, get the picture in your mind of yourself having two different conversations – from differing points of view – but about the same event.
Let’s imagine the ‘you’ on the left screen is the most relaxed, together ‘you’ (and we all have that person in us). On the other screen is the most crazed ‘you’ (and we all have that person, too). Choose one event that occured recently that put you in that crazed state. You already know what conversation was happening on that side of the screen. Now, have that conversation from the other side of the screen, where the calm, together, ‘just whelmed’ person is; what is she/he saying? Write that out as needed. My guess is that it’s very different from what you’d write out if you scripted the crazed person on the other part of the split screen.
So, try approaching various events from your calm self and see what s/he has to recommend and say to you. Much nicer, more affirming, more in control…that’s my guess.