I was going to wait and speak with you Monday about the following concern. But, then I thought I should post it as a blog question because it is something that other members may have to deal with at some point.
I will be speaking to a group of teachers on Wednesday. Many of these teachers I have worked with in the past. I will be speaking (in general) about bullying. The principal of the campus told me that she wants me to focus on the attitude/behavior of the teachers rather than the students. She said that she feels that her teachers are promoting bullying by their attitude and actions, which is quite possible.
So, I have come up with 10 questions that educators need to ask themselves to determine if they are making the problem of bullying better or worse. Here are a few examples:
1. How well do you monitor your students?
2. Do you intervene every time you witness bullying?
As you can see, I will be asking some difficult questions and I will be asking the teachers to do a lot of reflecting.
I don’t want to offend anyone and I don’t want the teachers to think I am pointing the finger and blaming them for the bullying behavior of the students. The point I will try to make is that we have to take a good look at ourselves first before we can help the kids.
So, how do I do this tactfully? I am going to mention that I am NOT pointing the finger at them. What else can I do to make sure that I am not given a lifetime ban from working with this school in the future?
You and I have talked about this…and you came up with some great solutions. I am going to respond later today…and after I do, I hope you will share with the other members some of the ideas you came up with (because I know they worked well).
So stay tuned everyone!
P.S. I know I still haven’t responded on the blog, but Billy has:
Here are a few things I did:
1. Instead of asking a question (and pointing a finger), I made a statement. Here is an example of what I’m talking about.
A question I was going to ask is, “How well do you monitor your students?” Instead of asking this question I made the statement, “We must carefully monitor our students.” This worked really well.
2. A few times throughout the presentation, I acknowledged the mistakes I have made as an educator. This also worked well. Here is a comment one participant made on the evaluation.
“I’m happy to hear that you as a teacher/administrator admitted that your were guilty like the rest of us. We are all guilty of not having the right attitude towards our kids all of the time.” I feel that audience members respect a presenter when he/she can admit the mistakes they have made.
Doing these two things really helped. The presentation went well and it was a positive environment.
Posted by Billy Simms on 11/6/07